The ripples of the August heat rise off the road, visually blurring the traffic lined up in front of me as we wait in the New Jersey Shore traffic. I am feeling claustrophobic, boxed in by cars on all sides. I have my window open – air surfing – you know – where you make …Read More
I find that being a mother and a sexual being is a conundrum. By this, I mean they are a bit like oil and water – a challenging mix of roles. In our house we have these pocket doors leading into our master bedroom that were not proving to be very “private” at all, so …Read More
It’s a New Year and I am a lucky woman to be on a plane headed to paradise. There’s nothing like a brand new year and a quiet, long plane ride to make one reflective. It has me thinking about where I have been… Mistakes, lessons, pain, incidents, loss, failures and issues – so much …Read More
Some counseling sessions are just down right startling. I distinctly recall this one couple and the way they entered their first session at their initial intake looking unusually happy –perhaps some nervous energy, I thought. He wiggled in his seat and checked out my degrees, licenses, and certifications and other objects in the room. She …Read More
It’s a typical Thursday evening. Mayhem has ensued in the homework area while I am cutting up the salad ingredients. Bickering fills the kitchen and my tolerance is rapidly dwindling. “Really,” my little voice inside says. “Why must siblings be so mean? “ Then I think, “Is it a hazing type of thing? Breaking one …Read More
I can vividly recall my childhood visits to my grandparent’s house in the small coastal town of Sea Girt, New Jersey. We’d arrive to the aroma of her homemade clam chowder simmering along with the hint of sweet vanilla lingering in the air as her creamy cheesecake cooled in the counter. There was art everywhere …Read More
“It’s grey today,” I murmur as I wrestle with my bra clasp and rummage through my underwear drawer, scavenging for something lacy, bright and racy to offset the grey. He’s in his bathroom and I’m in mine. His mouth is full of toothpaste as he gurgles back, “Yes indeed, my dear.” He always calls me …Read More
The house was full of life. By this, I mean dinner was cooking while one of our kids was shouting from upstairs, “Mom, can you help me study?” And the other by my side was asking, “ Can I have 5 dollars for my field trip? “ Our dogs were barking at their bowls for …Read More
I tried to occupy myself with packing, but my mind kept turning back to the clock and the phone. We were awaiting the call from our fertility doctor, letting us know if the years we spent in grueling, humiliating, disruptive (not to mention financially draining) treatments had finally resulted in a pregnancy. Time was crawling. …Read More
The sun is fading on the last day of our family’s summer vacation. I am trying to internalize the mesmerizing ebb and flow of the waves, the soft breeze, the warmth of the sun on my skin, and the peaceful ease of this moment so I can store it away for later. Walking back to …Read More
